To all the Men I Loved
Before,
Please do not expect me to start by defining what exactly I mean
by “love”… I loved you all, whether we had a formal relationship or not…
whether I merely had a crush on you… or we had a special understanding… they
were all forms of love, and I wish I could tell you all how grateful I am to
have felt all of these because of you.
I’d like to think that it’s not too late for me to thank
you, especially during this month of love, and most especially since now I am
happy with someone I truly cherish…. Please don’t think that I only want you to
be envious of my happiness, but what I really want is to inform you how I also
cherished all the memories we had.
Don’t get me wrong, I have truly moved on from everything,
and I’m pretty sure you have too.
I just want to say thank you…
…for being a special friend who made me feel so special that
you texted me all throughout the day when I was sick, to the point that someone
teased us about it, saying you didn’t pay attention to anyone else on that day
since you were so busy texting…
…for giving me a Valentine’s card, telling me that I should
celebrate Valentine’s too… and yes, that was the very first card I received
from a guy, and I’m glad it wasn’t necessarily romantic…
…for taking care of the Mr. Bean keychain and looking for it
when it was lost… though you didn’t really find it…
…for an almost high school romance…
…for an almost prom date…
…for letting me feel the joy and pain having a crush on a
very special friend, getting jealous with his crush, feeling bewildered at
realizing I was that crush, and the pain of accepting that we really are better
off as friends…
…for having my first crush actually like me (3 years later…or…
hehe)
…for finally giving me a high school romance…
…for the very “sulit” dates we had… Believe me, I really
cherished them
…for the first teddy bear I received from a “romantic
partner”…
…for texting me despite us belonging to different networks…
…for giving me… uhhh a “balabal” (which I used differently
haha)
…for a prom date! According to your PROMise
…for the very first birthday surprise I had… and it didn’t
fail unlike what you thought… it was really sweet and so awesome that you managed
to gather most of my friends, even those who I haven’t seen for a while…
…for respecting my decision to finally end everything…
...for helping me move on…
…for trying to help me with my Cheerdance ticket problem
…for having ingenious plans to get to know me better…
…for giving me my first car ride with a guy, and having
quite an adventure with it…
…for helping me learn a lot, especially with events…
…for guiding me through the camp…
…for introducing me to your family…
…for making my dream of being a part of a choir come true,
even just for one mass…
…for giving me my first and second bouquet of flowers…
…for helping me entertain the guests in my debut…
…for all the adventures and firsts…
…for explaining to me why we can’t be together…
…for trying to help me move and being my friend in the
process…
…for doing your best to be better than all those before you…
…for that surprise in October…
…for that rose in the locker…
…for singing love songs to me…
...for teaching me lots of things…
…for making me feel wanted…
…for bringing me to a different, weird in a good way worship…
…for pushing me to do new things and realize more of my
potential…
…for letting go…
I owe a lot to you, for helping me be who I am now, for all
the laughter and tears, bruises and newfound strength…
Thank you.
Thank you for now; I know who I want…
I also knew myself more.
I have hurt you all in one way or another, and you have done
the same to me… I pray that we both already have forgiven each other. And one
of these days, when we see each other, or when we see each other’s names in the
feed of some social networking site, may we not feel bad, but instead may we
both be grateful that we have met each other and shared memories that taught us
a lot…
…made us all better people…
…and have led us to our happiness…
…or maybe have set us on the direction towards our real
happiness.
Everything happens for a reason, and God’s master plan will
unveil itself in due time.
In the end, all I can say is it is true that it is better to
have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.
I loved you, and may that fact leave a smile on your lips…
…for I loved you, and I only love those who deserve it.
You deserve to be happy, and may you all find happiness in
your journey to find the love of your life.
Belated Happy Valentine’s. :)